On Being Considerate
So, you have found someone with whom you can share your heart and time. At first, everything seems to be going well, until the issue of consideration rears its ugly head. Your significant other did something that makes you raise your left eyebrow. Here is the scenario, the MTA is on strike, your partner drives, but you do not. You need a ride to work; your significant other has banking and other stuff to do. You are of the mindset that he/she is aware of the blatant issue of the transit strike so you feel that you should not have to ask for a ride. It is not one of those days when you are silently accused as being needy. You head to bed, morning comes, and you ask, “Are you going to take me with you to do some banking? The answer stops you in your tracks, “No, I am leaving now. You should have told me that you needed a ride.” You are wondering to yourself, did I miss something? Your next response is, ‘Go ahead, I will find my way?’ He/she leaves without a goodbye or show any concern about your getting to work. What do you do? Although relationships can be a D-R-A-G, a real drag, situations like the one above makes the nurturer in a relationship wonders, why am I here? Men, as well as women come with many baggages, being considerate is an important asset to have in the package. When talking does not resolve the issue of inconsideration-, maybe walking does. As adults, we cannot raise and instill values of care or seeing from the “other” perspective if that trait was never instilled from childhood.
